I was too humiliated to tell anyone about this in person, but the VGCollect community came through and got me out of my slump. Thank you all so much, I'm feeling much better now!
btw did you contact your bank and tell them? they may be able to reverse the bank transfer but you may also have to file a police report.
Banktransfers can't be reversed by the bank [EU]. You can ask, and they will ask the recipient, but with a scam no chance.
I always google the account. And in the Netherlands we have a website that keeps track of some scammers with those bank accounts, so they when googling they turn up. They can change their bank accounts, but you need to see the signs some give. And if you think its a scam, leave it, don't gamble, their will always be a next seller.