For my birthday, I'm getting chicago style pizza and hopefully not having any human interaction with anyone except my wife... and I guess the pizza guy.
At least that would be my preference.
Sounds like a great plan, what activities would you recommend while/before/after that delicious pizza? We are both gamers but like different games 
but I guess I could force him to play a console game with me just this once 
Our anniversary is pretty close to my birthday, so we generally use the anniversary to spend the day eating sushi and playing multiplayer games, usually it's Mario Party or Pokemon Puzzle League, but this year we will probably play Fallout Brotherhood of Steel... and Mario Party.
Birthday though, I think it's usually do my own thing and play whatever game I feel like. My wife and I are similar that way, she's always claimed to be a gamer, but she rarely plays games, and when she does it's RPGs and stuff (Not knocking it). But we finally got a gaming computer and now she plays games like crazy, she is totally a PC gamer, she finally gets FPS games now that she can use a keyboard and mouse. She's been more open to different kinds of games now that she has a better understanding of how the games work now. Don't ask me, somehow it took a keyboard and mouse for her to understand using 2 joysticks.
To answer your question though, I have no suggestions for you other than to maybe find some sort of middle/common ground, and pick a game there that's multiplayer.
