I know this probably isn't the best place to seek advice for this sort of thing, but I have no idea what to do from here, and it's something I really don't want to plaster on Facebook for everyone I know to see.
My brother is a disabled and mentally challenged adult living with my mother. He is not in a position to live on his own without some sort of assistance. My mother is having drug issues. It's getting to the point where my brother should not be living with her. She's hanging out with very untrustworthy people that are just there to party and have stolen things out of the house on more than one occasion. She has been neglectful more than once with him which has included phone calls from my brother telling me he hasn't gotten meds or dinner and she's gone. And he's even gone to the doctor because he had too much of his medication in his system.
We've all had conversations with her trying to get her to see what's going on and that either she needs to clean her act up more, or my brother needs to go into a group home. She won't go for either and usually gets belligerent and flat-out mean and nasty when we bring it up.
Well, two weeks ago my brother tells me that half his paycheck is missing from his bank account. My mom is telling him that some friend of theirs stole her bank card and is stealing money. Except how would this friend be able to get into it without a pin-number? Story doesn't add up. And at this point, things have been building-up enough that I had to do something for my brother's safety.
So I call Far Northern Regional Center, which represents disabled and mentally challenged people in my area. They tell me since he's an adult, and never was legally conserved by anyone, that they can't do anything unless he comes in and says he wants to move-out. They tell me to report it to the ombudsman (an anonymous abuse reporting line). I do so, and the ombudsman tells me that since he's not in a group home, they won't do anything. ARGH!!
So then I try Adult Protective Services. They tell me they WILL follow-up, and will meet with him in a neutral zone: his day-program. Great, right?
Well, it's now two-weeks later. My brother calls me again. Now he's missing $80 and my mom is telling him that her ex-boyfriend stole it. (B.S.) And he was never interviewed at his day-program, so Adult Protective Services never did follow-up like they said they would.
I'm at a loss. I don't know what I can do from here. Any ideas anyone?
