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Off Topic / Re: How do you deal with getting older?
« on: July 07, 2025, 05:46:31 pm »mostly this altough time does realy feel to go by faster and faster the older I get.I recently had a birthday which puts me in my late 30s. I understand I'm still not old, and by conventional standards I'm not even middle aged yet, but one thing that has been on my mind a lot over the last year or so is how people deal with getting older.
it's a strange thing coming out of your late teens, 20s, and even your early 30s and most things are more or less as you remembered them, but then you realize one day they're not. Your relatives you've had in your minds eye as being around a certain age most of your life are now several decades beyond that, you start to hear more and more about people you knew personally dying, and even you aren't the same person anymore. You don't have the energy you once did, your body has all sorts of random aches and pains you never used to have, and you could have sworn you were just renewing your plates or paying your taxes a few months ago, when it's actually been a whole year already. I guess the passage of time and the reality of how much time has passed is starting to finally catch up with me. Does anyone else have feelings like this or have you dealt with this and somehow come to terms with it?
I think about it every single day when i'm alone. Damn... this hit the feels for me. I actually been feeling sort of out of body lately. Almost existential crisis. Like sometimes I just sit there and realize how finite life is... it feels like yesterday was y2k. Like monday was ps2 release date. it feels like Majoras mask. Where it's a game, all n64 and life as usual but then you look up and death is just there. When you start the game. That moon is far away. Easy peezy. No urgency or fear. You're a kid! But once you near 30, 40, 50 and I imagine especially 60 and 70. That moon is not exactly where it started anymore. And the reality of that is jarring. And it jars you the more you look up.
And things have radically changed with the advent of internet dependency. Which has not helped matters. It makes us lead very centralized and introverted psuedo lifestyles of speed. I find myself saying "these kids today" like an old grandfather and i'm not even 30 yet lol. It just has changed. Complex stuff like learning how to work a check book. Even something as simple as looking out the window every 30 seconds for a pizza guy. The excitement. Now we have an app to track it. Why wait at a mom and pop store. Amazon will do it quicker. Better. Theirs no effort required so I think life speeds up when theirs less to do. Less to see. It all feels like around 2010 or 2012. We all died at the same time. And everything after 2013 is just a bizarre dream. And this is a new life. Thats how different it is. But I know thats not the case.
Idk if anyone else feels this but does it seem like time moves faster as you age? Seemed like days were 2 days when I was younger. Now it seems like no matter how much time I make. Plans I cancel. It's just wake up. And then its bedtime right after. Theirs this sense of too quick. Idk. Where it comes from.
I guess we just gotta focus more on what is changeable. The quality of the life not the quantity. I know death can only bring us the answers of whats next. But its human nature to ponder it.
Sometimes the quote "dont be sad its over. Be happy it happened" make me feel better.
and hoenstly i hate getting older if I had the option to stay 20 for 20 years and then die i would take that over getting to 80.
the sad reality is that you cnat change it