I'm so tired of the "gamers need characters they can identify with" view. No we don't.
You're saying this in a discussion that was started because someone said they didn't like the fact that Aloy's sexual orientation was revealed in the story, and then multiple people went on to describe how they don't want to play "ugly characters pushing leftist agendas" (paraphrasing, but that's basically the message I got from several of the posts).
It's pretty clear to me that for a lot of people that claim it doesn't matter to them, it actually matters a lot because they are super vocal about it whenever a character does not appeal to them. They can't just ignore it and play the games that actually appeal to them. They gotta complain about it and let everyone know "hey I don't like this game because this character doesn't appeal to me at all!"
Do I personally wish there were more games with characters that looked like 2B rather than *Insert any character from the Concord roster*? Yeah 100%. But I'm also fine with Alloy and Ellie not looking like that, for there to be games about lesbians in the middle ages and to play a character I personally don't find hot in Naughty Dog's new game.
Some people aren't fine with that fact though, but will argue until they are blue in the face that it doesn't matter. You gotta pick one. Either it doesn't matter and we can all stop talking about how a character looks or identifies, or it does matter and we can continue complaining about how white men are being erased from video games and how there is a lack of black lesbian representation in games. It can't be both ways.
I'm on team it doesn't actually matter. The fact that Aloy turned out to be a lesbian didn't matter to me. It was no different than watching Nathan Drake fall in love with Elena Fisher. In the same breath, the fact that Stellar Blade and 2B are super hot also doesn't bother me at all. I like playing as super good looking characters, and a bit of fanservice isn't bad. Given the option, I'm always playing as a character that is closer to 2B than Abby from the Last of Us 2. But I don't hate Abby as Neir and The Last of Us are completely different settings, art directions and tones. It would actually be weird of Abby was some skinny hot girl with flawless skin given the character's background and circumstances.
What I am seeing in this thread though is that most people are on team "it matters a lot". Otherwise this discussion would have ended a while a go.